A diagnosis of stage 4 lung cancer turns life upside down. So many emotions. So many questions. So many fears. How are you coping with your stage 4 diagnosis? What has been hardest? What has helped the most? Has something or someone in particular helped you cope? Please share your feelings and/or find comfort in hearing the stories of others who have also had to cope with a diagnosis of stage 4 lung cancer. Share Your Feelings
- You wrote: "Hopefully, The Chemo will give me more time and will keep a positive attitude to the end! As far as smoking, please stop now. I did smoke for many years and wouldn't heed the warnings from non-smokers! Please, please, if you smoke, stop this very moment."
I quit 2 months ago, after 30 years of a pack a day habit, because I've suddenly woken up to mortality and cancer risks. I went online tonight because my resolve is weak tonight and I wanted a reason not to go out a buy a pack. Thank you for writing what you did: it hit me like a hammer. Your courage and poistivity is inspiring and I wish you peace and strength in your journey. I am resolved that I will never smoke again and I will return to your message in the months and years to come if I ever feel weakened. God bless you and your loved ones.
- —Guest Miss J
Not in black n white yet
- TODAY THE DOCTOR came into my fathers room and stated . "It looks like he has stage 4 malignant lung cancer" Me being a prayer warrior am not claiming that diagnosis. This has been one of the worst weeks of my life. I'm crying as I type this.
- —Guest eph313
- I have been told that my aunt who turned 50 this February has been diagnosed with stage 4. What I know is she beat breast cancer 4 years ago and now it is back in her breast and lungs and she is being given the pill form of chemo to see if that will prolong her life.
I have faith that she will rest that whatever God desires will be the result of this illness. I do see us all coming together and being as close as ever and I am grateful for her and her peaceful quiet spirit. i know she believes she will go be with Jesus some day and she is not afraid. It is what gives me strength right now. seeing her carry on and fight the good fight through theses circumstances. She is now one of my hero's.
- —Guest Tammy
How to help husband accept cancer
- Now my husband didn't start off with Lung Cancer. It was in his tonsils then spread to his lympnodes. he was already in stage 4-C when this was found. Did the Chemo and radiation. Now in the middle of chemo and radiation he starts having spells where he was falling. Went into hospital new years day 2013. They found a tumor on his Brain Stem that goes all the way to his Right Eye. He is now terminal. There is nothing they can do. How do I get my husband to cope with this. We have 5 children. 2 of which are still at home. He does nothing any more. We started off weighting in at 260- 6 mos later we are now 185. Losing 5 pounds every week. He won't eat won't drink. And I don't know what to do. How can I help him accept this.. How do i help my children accept this. I really haven't had time to accept this. I am the one who has to be strong for him and the children. My whole life is falling apart in front of me. He has quit. he quit when he was 1st diagnosed. Please any suggestions. Editor's note: It is so hard when people react differently to their diagnosis than we would act ourselves or want for them to act. Doing nothing may be how your husband has chosen to cope with and accept his diagnosis. I wish I had answers, but I believe you are already doing something very important for yourself -- expressing your heartache and anguish and reaching out to a community that unfortunately understands too well what stage 4 cancer means. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your children as I'm sure those of many of our readers will be as well.
- —Guest Tracy
Thanks for info
- My brother has stage 4 and i thank you for the info but i am scared to lose my brother that i love very much.
- —Guest Lisa
- My dunce and I were engaged on Sept. 3, 2011. We were over the moon happy! On September 20 2011 my fiancé was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer and was told he had three to six months to live. He passed away quickly because of a blood clot, which is often a complication from treatment. He passed on October 16 2011. I went from being the happiest person in the world to the saddest. Sometimes I still don't know what happened everything happened so quickly! We got to tell each other we loved each other on that last day and I am grateful that my fiancé passed away relatively quickly and painlessly.
- —Guest Megan
- In2009 my mom underwent radiation for ovarian cancer. She did it and fought and recovered. She then complained of headaches on and off in Jan. 2013 received the news she has 4 tumors on her brain. She competed 3 weeks of radiation it has been diffuclt. It has all stemed from cancer in her right lung. She developed a terrible cough, and severe swelling to the face we thought it was a cold but actual fluid on the lungs that was removed almost 2 bottles in er. The Er dr explained everything to me and how she will not get better and the fluid will return. My mom told the dr. she is only going through this for me ( an only child) that broke me down as I'm wanting her to fight but she doesn't want to, and I understand. As we sit her waiting for her radiation (5 treatments) I pray for healing. But I'm lost, scared, angry and need support. I live 2 hours from my parents (which are both very sick) and being the only child this is very hard to cope with when she wants to give up. Please help Editor's note: Do you have a support group in your community or at your mom's cancer center? Another option would be an online support group. CancerCare (you can google it) is an excellent source. They provide online support groups as well as individual counseling for family members of people going through cancer and it is all free. LUNGevity (you can google it) is another excellent resource and you can contact them with your concerns. There are other options as well which you can check out in this article: http://lungcancer.about.com/od/livingwithlungcancer/a/cancersupport.htm
- —Guest Godisahealer
Do I tell her?
- My mom recently had a few seizures and at first they told her it was a ministroke. They released her from the hospital and everything got worse. One morning she fell in the bathroom and was super confused. After hours of arguing we got the news that it was cancer that had spread to her brain. Now she's on medicine to are for the symptoms but she seems to believe she is going to be okay and refuses to talk about even having cancer. Do I force her to address it or just allow her to have peace? Editor's note: This is a hard question for families, and the answer depends on so many things. When in doubt, honesty is almost always the best policy. It may be difficult to tell a family member they have brain metastases, but being honest - and explaining it as gently as possible - helps them retain their dignity and independence as much as possible.
- —Guest Trish
Why god. Not my Husband
- March 13, 2012 my dear husband and friend was disagnosed
with stage 3 lung cancer. Combination of radiation and chemotherapy proceeded with an interruption of pneumonia. September 15 he was in remission. October 10 lump in other lung and spread to all over body in sprinkles. November 10 had a seizure and now cancer has gone to brain. Surgery was performed followed with whole brain radiation. With difficulty with cognitive skills, increase of pain he is dying. This is painfully to see him suffer. He's a fighter and today is cooking for the family. Why God don't take my husband away. I can't imagine going on without him
- —Guest Jan
coping with stage IV lung cancer
- As of December 2012 was diagnosed with small cell carcinoma. My first reaction was-this has to be a mistake! All tests taken showed extensive type of lung cancer. I start extensive Chemo next week (Jan 28th, 2013). Trying to keep a positive attitude ans with Chemo, I have a survival chance of less than a year to live, but I will fight this beast with everything that I have, not because I am afraid to die, but just don't want my loved ones to be without me. Have always been a fighter and that will not stop with this cancer either. My age is 81 years old, but makes no difference. Age is a number, just as a time limit on living is!! Hopefully, The Chemo will give me more time and will keep a positive attitude to the end! As far as smoking, please stop now. I did smoke for many years and wouldn't heed the warnings from non-smokers! Please, please, if you smoke, stop this very moment. Now dislike even the thought of those nasty death sticks!! Loom
Doctors aren't God
- My mother was diagnosed with NSC stage 4 lung cancer in Jan 11. After biopsies were preformed she was told that with the advanced stage it was inoperable. It has metastasized from two tumors in her chest to her right arm. Her oncologist gave her a six month diagnosis. That was two years ago. Last week she was hospitalized for dehydration. Since her hospitalization she has grown weeker. Today her oncologist gave my mother yet another 6 month diagnosis. He has put her on comfort measures and wants to send her home with hospice. Her doctor has been wrong before so therefore I refuse to let this cancer take my mother. She has nearly beaten the cancer before so I have faith that she can do it again. I just want to encourage all family members to keep your faith. Do not lose hope! The title of doctor does not give you the title of God. He decides when he wants for you to come home. Never give up and keep fighting!
- —Guest Steph
Lung cancer stage 4
- My mom non smoker,very active with many sports activities had lung cancer stage 4. She is cheer lady and kind mother. She always strong and she never say that she is sick or even headache. She looks very fine, suddenly she admit hospital for an emergency for first time cause of breathing problem for 2 days and discard. Two weeks later, she admit again and she look okay for the ealier. Doctor said she can go home, we are happy and prepared to bring her home suddenly she has gone at 11.00 am on 31st Dec 2012 in the hospital
- —Guest Harith Aniq
- You'll live fully, not in fear and Satan and his minions say Oh sh*t each monnirg when your feet hit the floor You wrote that in your blog at some point, and I've always loved that mental image. Here's to life.Thank you for the profound, honest words!
- —Guest ErcrKoXucp
Mother has aggressive lvl 4 lung cancer
- Two and a half years ago, my mom had breast cancer in one breast. She had a double mastecotomy. This Aug 2012, during reconstruction, It was discovered the cancer not only had returned, but it was extremely aggressive growing quickly in size. She had it removed Aug, another baseball size one in Sept, and the final one was in Nov when 2 more large new cancer lumps were removed under her collar bone and connected to her implant. This was The end of Nov 2012. A week ago, she started not feeling well and had a cough, a ct scan was done on her lungs, she was diagnosised by her regular MD with terminal cancer with a couple of weeks to a couple of months left to live. He Onocologist said there are 7 different treatments to try and if one didnt work, he would keep trying another one. She is happy they told her they could extend her life for a few years. Because this cancer is SO AGGRESSIVE I dont believe in the other doctor. I think he is just giving her hope. But she does know she is dying.
- —Guest TJ
- My sister is 64 one year ago in Nov.2011 she was diagnos with cancer 4 tumors on the brain 1 on the lung and the breast bone limp nodes they did surgery on the brain and radiation and chemo. July she said they found it in her lung started treatment and that didn't work so they stopped them its now almost Christmas and she is in severe pain. I worry a lot about her.Exept when she's in a lot of pain hospice has been call in to help.she has accept our lord and she knows she will be leaving us. I just keep believing she's. Not leaving me
- —Guest Kathy S